Despite how the Disney movies manage to make it seem, true love is not always sunshine and rainbows. This is because there are often very real topics and issues that need to be handled in the everyday. But within that will come its own blessing. For example, you could never tell a parent of a child with autism that they haven’t a lot on their plate. But despite the challenge, the love always helps them pull through and will help them and their family become incredible noble and worthy of respect, even though they’re not asking for it.
It takes a mature person, and a mature relationship to handle the difficult subjects in life. This is why it’s often not advisable for those with little life experience to focus on marriage, but still, those people are more than free to do that, because we all learn as the years pass on. It might be that you have a difficult situation that needs addressing with your partner, but you’re not sure when the right time would be, or perhaps the both of you are subconsciously avoiding talking about it. You wouldn’t be the first.
With the following post, we hope to give you and your partner the tools to overcome this difficult period:
Set A Time
It might be that the both of you know you need to speak about something, but you simply haven’t been able to sit down and express that. It’s not hard to see why this could be. Most people work long hours and hard jobs, and by the time they come home and sit in front of the television, a hard-hitting conversation might be a difficult one to have. Perhaps it will take involved emotional presence to allow both parties to express themselves well. This is where setting a time can be a great idea. Perhaps a book a table for dinner at the weekend. Perhaps go for a walk through the park, as walking and speaking can often help the best ideas spring up. But what’s important is that you set a time, and that both of you know this is when the discussion will take place.
Don’t Blame, Look For Solutions
It might be that you’ve been trying to conceive a child for some time, but it seems one or both of you is having trouble with that process. This can be quite damaging to the emotional health of both parties, and make them feel insecure they are not providing ‘their share’ of the relationship. But instead of blaming yourself or your partner, come to the dialogue with alternative solutions to ponder. Perhaps IVF or adoption are processes you would be willing to handle. Perhaps you wish to just keep trying, or reset your expectations. When you come into the discussion with the ideal of ‘we can fix this,’ it might not feel so morbid.
Emphasize Your Love
Sometimes, topics get quite real and heavy. Perhaps you want to confront your partner about their pornography addiction, or how you’ve felt somewhat unhappy in how you’ve been talking to each other lately. Emphasize that this is a means to steer you back on course, not to blame, aggressive denigrate, or try to score points. This way the conversation starts with the right framing, and you can go on from there.
With these tips, we hope you’re better able to approach the difficult topics with your partner.