It’s the moment we all dread as parents. You get a phone call to come and collect your child because they’ve been arrested. At this point, a myriad of thoughts are going through your mind, not just about what they have done, but what this has done to the family, and that you know, deep down, that the concept of good quality family time is never going to be the same again. But, if this ever happens to you, how can you handle the situation, and how can you cope with the realities of what is going on?
Don’t Jump To Conclusions!
First thing’s first, it’s important to stay calm. Of course, you are going to be angry and concerned, but it’s best not to jump to any conclusions. Head to the police station and find out as much information as possible first. It might not be possible to speak to your child’s face to face, but generally, you can do so before they’re interviewed. It is at the discretion of the police officer though, bear this in mind first.
Don’t Act As Their Lawyer!
You might think you know your child better than anyone, but you don’t know the law better than a lawyer! It’s best to get in contact with a law firm, such as Rowdy G. Williams Law Firm, P.C., who specializes in criminal law. Even though you mean well, if you attempt to act as your child’s representative, you could end up damaging the situation further. You could waive their rights, or you could get your child more incriminating criminal records that will affect them for the rest of their life.
Work Through The Family Problems
Understandably, you are going to be angry, and this will cause a lot of stress, even if your child is let out on bail, as is the precursor to a big trial. If your child is guilty of the crime, understandably you’re going to be confused and hurt by the fact that your little angel is capable of such acts. In the meantime, until justice is served, and your child is found guilty or innocent, you need to stand by them. This can cause people to take sides in the family, as well as with people close to your family, but these are problems you need to work through in the meantime.
Has Everyone Learnt From This?
The outcome has been delivered, and justice has been served. And, for better or worse, your child might be found guilty or not guilty. For some children, this can prove to be very harsh lesson on the justice system, and for you, as the child’s parent, it’s been a rude awakening. This will make you reassess your relationship with your child, and if you’ve done enough in the past, but, even though you have guilt over the situation, you can still guide your child in the right direction. It will just take a little more work.
Nobody ever wants to have that phone call, but it’s unfortunately, very common. It’s a drastic situation to handle, but it’s possible to keep control over it.